By: Stephen and Judy Uzelac
Before you can change your life you must believe that change is possible. On every journey, there are times when that self-doubt presents itself. We may never see our self as achieving success at anything we try. We need to realize that any challenge has its ups and downs and these tough learning moments will either make us or break us. As a result, some will give up, and some will move forward. The key is, if your dream is speaking to your soul, “Never Give Up,” because if you do, your dream will disappear or may haunt you forever after.
The only dream breaker is you.
There are many roadblocks that will prevent us from achieving success. It is best to let our creativity flow. Image all you can achieve. Don’t let anyone or anything become a roadblock between the dream that lives in your heart and soul and you achieving that dream.
What are some reasons why many people give up?
1. We put our dream on hold or we believe in “Someday.”
There are seven days in every week and “Someday” is not one of them. We will never achieve our dreams, goals or vision if we continue to procrastinate by putting our desires, or passions, or dreams on hold. Our best intentions will not do us any good without a clear plan and actions that support our dream/vision/passion.
Opportunity: Be pro-active! Always set an action plan, with a timeline that includes start and finish dates. Even if we can’t start on it today it is best to have a realistic “Timeline.” Make sure you have the resources and if someone can help, let them.
2. Fear of failure:
Fear of failure, in itself, is incapacitating. Fear of failure is perhaps one of the biggest reasons we give up. Don’t give others the power to influence your success or failure. We all fear rejection from those we care about and look up to for their approval. This type of fear is almost always rooted in fear of rejection or judgment from those we care about. Progress rarely comes in a straight line or an easy path. Taking a step backward is not failure. Failure is just giving up. Remember if we don’t first succeed, try and try again. If we only see the failure we will never see the lesson.
Opportunity: Recognize that you are going to make mistakes and any mistake is just a lesson in our detour. Don’t quit. Use this as an opportunity to create a new highway for success. Success may be right around the next curve in the road.
Not taking action or waiting until you feel ready. Most people who wait until they feel ready are just prolonging failure. If we are waiting until we feel we are ready to start our journey, we may never get started. When we procrastinate it is very unlikely that we are going to gain a burst of inspiration. We will just continue to put it off until “Someday.”
Opportunity: Change your behavior. Get up and get started. Discover your motivation. By taking positive action you may gain the ambition to get started and stay on your journey. Surround yourselfwith positive people andpositive thoughts.
4. Not putting first thing first:
You need to ask yourself “What is important?” Discipline is the single most valuable skill for turning our dreams into a reality. Prioritize what is important and what is not. Setting priorities is one thing. The work begins when we begin to put action to our priorities. We have to decide what actions will get me closer to my dream my goal or my vision.
Opportunity: Begin to identify a step-by step approach. Make your goals a priority. You have to decide what is important and what is going to be a waste of time. Identify each action you are going to take each day and write it in the timeline of your action plan.
5. Lack of discipline:
Discipline is a habit or the single most valuable skill for turning your dream into a reality. Many of us lack this skill. We lack patience and in many cases, we don’t see the value in withholding short-term rewards for long-term gains.
Opportunity: Remember without proper discipline, we will never succeed. Be patience and put your planning skills to work. Don’t get in a hurry. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
6. Focusing on the end, rather than the process:
Success is a process. When we focus on the end, we can’t see the journey. But if we focus on the process, we will find that we accomplish more each day and the journey seems to become shorter and shorter with each passing day. And, we will say, “Wow, I’ve come such a long way.”
Opportunity: Just because we don’t see big results, doesn’t mean our effort isn’t moving forward. When we stick to the plan and complete each activity we will see short-term gains. It is the process that leads us to the finish line.
7. If you believe you can’t, you can’t.
There are those who look to others to believe in them. They look for approval and others to cheer them on. Dreams don’t work this way. We have to believe in who we are, what we want and go for it. If we are truly excited about changing our life, we may be tempted to set the bar a little high.
Opportunity: Don’t take on too much at one time. Focus on each activity, step by step. Set short-term goals and celebrate each milestone along your journey.
In closing a few things to think about:
- If you stop walking, how do you expect to get to where you want to go?
- Remember it’s a journey. Failure only becomes permenant if we let it. But what does that word really mean? Failure? People who succeed are the ones who see those “failures” as lessons–forever and always.
- Don’t surround yourself with negative people. You will become a reflection of the five people you spend the most time with. Look at those who hang out together, if they are negative, unproductive people and tend to follow the leader.
- Find positive support. Identify with positive achievers. They will help you go places you never thought possible.
- The truth is, most people can’t explain it because they aren’t even sure themselves. And instead of continuing on the journey of self-discovery, they decide to give up altogether.
- The key is to never give up on yourself. You are your driving force. No one but you will determine your road to success.